Friday, May 28, 2010
Take the Castro County Fair, an event that almost mocks traditional ideas about community, even as it reinvents and improves them. There in the midst of the pie contest and the two-stepping, Kink.com tours departed hourly, a spanking booth made its debut, and a climbing wall was scaled by drag queens in heels.
City Supervisor Bevan Dufty, our future gay mayor, bounced down an inflatable slide with his daughter before heading out to a chili cook-off for charity. I love how San Francisco turns conventional concepts inside out, rebelliously yet respectfully making them our own.
At Nasty, the fun-raiser I host on first Fridays at The Powerhouse, the close quarters make it a bar where everybody knows your name, but there’s an aspect of it that’s more like a church social. It is truly a community gathering, and we just happen to take care of our own by passing around Crisco cans instead of an offering plate.
San Francisco is a small town in all the best ways. We intentionally limit our worldview to the Castro and SOMA. And at some level, we really do know one another just from seeing each other “round the way.” We are all “six degrees of ejaculation” away from one another – it’s funny because it’s true - yet there’s a sense of security that comes from knowing each other so intimately, for better or for worse.
My favorite part of the word community is the last part: unity. Each of us, for our own reasons, has chosen to live inside this beautiful bubble. Collectively, we take pride in knowing that we’re really not like the rest of society. We willfully fear and shun the world beyond our borders, taking comfort in our glittery isolation.
Here in Oz, we have an endless supply of unique, quirky and proudly gay ways to commune with one another. Here’s where I’ll be trying to do just that next…
June 4 – Nasty at The Powerhouse
June 5 – Adonis with DJs Brett Henrichsen & Lee Decker at Club NV
June 6 – Marlena’s Dragathon and Flagging in the Park
June 12 – DJs Manny Lehman and Wayne G at Wonderland, LA Pride
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Since I was raised by circuit queens under a disco ball, I’m not the kind of girl you’d typically find two-steppin at a county fair. But the Castro County Fair, taking place in the Kink.com Armory on May 23, has me all excited about rockin my cowboy boots and hosting a good old-fashioned Kissing Booth for the AIDS Emergency Fund. (Please come by for a Brokeback-style smooch!) The best part, of course, is that there’s nothing traditional about it. With the gays, charity can be silly, naughty, and worthy all at the same time.
Like when I proudly accept the title of Ms. Heartthrob 2010 at The Eagle on May 27, an honor being bestowed upon me by the Castro Lions. Community service clubs like the Lions are probably pretty tame outside the gaytopia known as San Francisco, but here we’ll be raising money for Lyon-Martin Health Services with a “Big Ass Party” at a leather bar featuring gender-delusional musical entertainment.
And Memorial Day isn’t really a holiday that speaks to me personally, my respect for men in uniform notwithstanding. To my mind, it marks the beginning of summer more than anything, but thanks to the gay twist, it’s now a weekend I look forward to each year.
The holiday once known as “Decoration Day” (now that’s how to sell it to the gays!) kicks off on Friday, May 28, with Gay Day Great America, where I’ll be performing on Heklina’s Trannyshack stage and riding rollercoasters with my drag mama Charisma Glitteratti.
Saturday the 29th, I’ll be dancing it out at Ceremony with DJ Tony Moran (produced in perfect partnership by DJ Luke Johnstone and Gus Presents). And Sunday the 30th I’ll be doing a double-header (also a very gay concept!), at Fresh with DJ Manny Lehman followed by one of my very favorite parties of all, Sanctuary, this time with DJs David Knapp and Luke Johnstone.
Don’t get it twisted. I’m sure straight people think they’re having fun, too. But I say, if there’s a way to make it gay, then BRING IT!